24 Apr A balanced life
I’m always looking for the magic formula to live a balanced life, but maybe there’s no such thing?
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the rat race we call life and striving for the ideal…a balanced life. How do we enjoy it when we’re going at a million miles per hour all the time? “There’s no such thing [as a balanced life], it’s a lie, a false hope that keeps on being perpetuated,” someone told me the other day. My mind was blown because she was right! I constantly work towards having balanced and feel guilty / deflated when I inevitably fail.
Never before has it been this difficult to keep juggling all the elements in our lives.
I believe that technology is partly to blame for this, we literally never switch off, and we are reachable 24/7. It’s not natural. We all need down time to recover, to refresh and just smell the flowers. Even more to blame than this is the expectation we place on ourselves to be superwomen. We’re so used to having to work three times as hard as men to prove ourselves to the world. Even in 2018, we still aren’t getting the recognition for who we are and what we do.
While we’re being superwomen in the office, we’re also expected to be present and involved partners to our significant others; spend quality time with our friends; be the perfect daughters, siblings, mothers; be good cooks and housekeepers; look after our health and go to gym; and while doing all of this still find time for ‘me-time’ so that we can keep our sanity. To top it all, most of us have some or other side hustle on the go and need to keep our social media platforms updated. It’s a lot!
I know that I’m not alone in this, I know that most women feel the same weight resting on their shoulders.
It’s no wonder that we drop a ball every now and then because something’s gotta give. In most cases our relationships with our friends suffer. We figure that if they’re true friends, they won’t disappear on us just because we haven’t talked in a while; and vice versa. I’m so much more understanding of a friend not reading or replying to my texts for a while, and I hope that it’s reciprocated.
I’m here to tell every woman out there that it’s okay not to be perfect, and it’s fine to drop a ball every now and then.
It’s impossible for even the most skilled jugglers to keep all 20 balls in the air at all times. Don’t feel guilty when you need time for yourself, self-care is important too. You need to take care of yourself first in order to care well for others.
Maybe we will feel less stressed if we just accept that we’re only human, trying to do our best.
Here’s some tips that help me to keep going and maybe they can work for you too
Schedule ‘me-time’ at least once a week
This is important for your mental health and to recharge. Whether it’s taking a bubble bath, reading a book, watching series, eating chocolate or even just taking a nap. Do it.
Eat healthily as much as possible
My gran used to say that food is fuel for the body. If you don’t eat well, you can’t keep going and ultimately live well. Healthy food also makes you feel better whereas greasy, heavy food makes you feel sluggish and fatigued
Do some form of exercise on a weekly basis
A healthy body houses a healthy mind. Exercise is also great for keeping your skin glowing and keeps a long list of ailments at bay
Drink lots of water
Water flushes out toxins and keeps you hydrated, which is essential when you’re always on the go
Sunscreen prevents premature ageing. Please use it, often.
Let’s support each other instead of placing even more unrealistic expectations on other women.